Real Life:
Five Years Later
 

Becky's Home Page

 

"The Real Life Test" -
A True Autobiography

 

A List of Therapists Who Treat
Transgendered Persons

 

State - By - State Instructions
For Changing Name And Sex
On Birth Certificate

 

Topics Related to
Transsexualism

 

Lefty: A Short Story

 

Parallel Lines: A Tribute 

 

 Christmas Messages

1998: Christmas Remembered
1999: What's In A Date?
2000: Peace On Earth
2001: Dark Days
2002: The Little Things
2003: Shop Till You Drop
2004: Survivor
2005: What Are You Waiting For?
2006: Peace In Our Heart
2007: The Greatest Of These

 

Real Life:
Five Years Later
 

 

The Grace Letters
1992-2007

1992
Answered Prayers
One Day At A Time

1993
Self Discovery
Strength Through Weakness

1994
Sacrifice
Rest

1995
Play It As It Lays
The Way We Weren't

1996
Disclosure
Share It Or Bear It

1997
Choices
I'm Not One Of Them

1998
What Have We To Fear?
God Don't Make No Junk

1999
Work It Out!
What's In A Date?

2000
Cheeks
Life In The Leper Colony

2001
Suicide
I Love You IF...

2002
Homeland Security
Images

2003
One Thing I Know
Letting Go

2004
The Least Of These
Children

2005
Will...or Grace?
The Word

2006
What Plank?
Risk

2007
Believing The Lie
The Greatest Of These

 

Facial Plastic Surgeons

 

SRS Surgeons

 

"Feminization of the Transsexual"
Douglas K. Ousterhout,
M.D., D. D. S.

 

 

 

 Background

The twelve months from December 1993 through November 1994 were like no other period of my life. I left behind years of trying to present a facade of masculinity, and began the rest of my life as the woman I knew I should be. Every day brought new challenges and triumphs as I dealt with the practical details of changing my identity. There was no more routine "business as usual" of my medical practice, and I faced unemployment without knowing when or where I would work again.

One benefit of this involuntary sabbatical was the opportunity to be introspective. Through months of psychological counseling, in groups and individually, I learned much about the person I am, my relationships with others, my goals for life and how to achieve them. During my transition, I kept a journal of every day's events. Just as my counselor had suggested, I found it therapeutic to write about the happenings of this year that changed my life. I recorded not only the daily routine, but my feelings, my reactions, my evoked memories, my dreams.

From this journal I developed "The Real Life Test," the title I gave the story of my transition year. When I was writing my journal I never expected it to be read by anyone else, much less published over the Internet. Therefore I recorded the daily minutiae of my life: my wardrobe, my routine social interactions, even the meals I prepared. These details were important to me in establishing my identity. As I repeated a daily routine as Becky, over and over, I learned just who this Becky person would be. Some persons who read my story will find such small details irrelevant. Others, especially those whose experiences resemble mine, will appreciate knowing that life's little concerns can be managed during times of personal turmoil.

There is life after transition. The end of the year 1998 marks five years that I have lived continuously as a woman. Many, although not all, of the losses I experienced have been restored. I have a wonderful medical practice, in which I am able to do everything I could do prior to transition, plus more new skills and techniques. My new home state is filled with incredible scenery and travel opportunities. My spiritual life has grown to a more mature understanding of love as the defining characteristic of a believer. Many old friends have re-opened their relationships with me, and even more new friends have entered my life. "Real Life" is sweet indeed.

Now it would be redundant, and much less meaningful, to write about my daily routine. Of course I want to convey an idea of what my life is like now. Many people who have read my story have been so kind to ask me about present life. I will give this information in a form unlike my previous daily journal.

"Real Life: Five Years Later" will be a continuing series of essays in which I explore issues important to me as a person with my special perspective on life. Many of these essays will relate in some way to the transsexual experience. I promise no timetable or fixed schedule, but will follow the creative impulse.

becky@drbecky.com